4 years ago, during the most uncertain time of my life – unemployed, broke, homeless after Hurricane Sandy – the seed of this book was born. This weekend an advance copy arrived from the California Hay House headquarters to my New York City apartment and hit me like a bolt of lightning. I am grateful and blessed to have received the responsibility of bringing this book to life.
4 years later, one thing is clear. Uncertainty, while it can be uncomfortable, is nothing to fear. From uncertainty comes opportunity, and from opportunity comes space for self-actualization. As the world tumbles into another 4 years of uncertainty, I ask that we use this time as an opportunity to trust ourselves and know that there is purpose even in chaos. I promise that it is our inner courage, not our outer circumstances, that protects us. Do not fear evil, but rather trust the goodness within yourself to be a force field in tumultuous times.
Our vibes are our energy – how we feel and how we make others feel. Too often we treat our vibes as cheap and expendable, throwing them away as soon as something bad happens. We start reacting to circumstances instead of proactively living from a place of inner strength. But the key to remember is that happiness is a choice made prior to, and independent of, external circumstances. When we remain steady in the face of stress – allowing our vibes to lead us – we remember how truly powerful we are.
As an ancient physical and spiritual practice, Kundalini Yoga has a long and fascinating history. So why was it kept secret for thousands of years? This article tells the amazing story of Kundalini Yoga, and explains why it has the power to change your life now more than ever.
Depending on our perspective, life can either be an ecosystem or an ego-system. In an ego-system, everything is measured by wins and losses, yet even wins are greeted with a nagging futility. In an ecosystem, there is nothing to win and nothing to lose, and everybody celebrates together anyway.
Being a straight white male, like every identity, is more complex than any one-sided stereotype. Am I racist? Homophobic? Sexist? The answer is not “yes”. But it’s more complicated than a clear cut “no”. Read my latest on The Huffington Post.
Today is my birthday. When I woke up this morning, after gracefully letting myself sleep in later than usual, I made coffee and said to myself, “Last year was pretty good. I finished a book, moved to Manhattan, became a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, slept in the Maui jungle, and fell in love. Now, what do I want for my 34th year?”
The answer hit me like a lightning bolt. “Trust yourself.”
What does success look like? If we look at traditional metrics of accomplishment – perfect relationship, Ivy League education, spotless resume – I’m a failure.
But what if perfection wasn’t the point? What if we are alive, not to succeed, but to learn? What if the point is not to find glory, but to find ourselves? What if there is no single finish line to measure ourselves against, but rather the dotted line of personal progress as we stumble imperfectly forward?
I am perpetually awkward, I cannot make a relationship last longer than a year, and my mouth is my foot’s second home. Men are not supposed to be vulnerable, but I’m tired of pretending.
We all have power. Our power is not the result of how much money we have, or how prestigious our job title is; our power is the result of how connected we are with our inner presence. When we stand confidently in the stillness of our presence, our words and actions assume a self-evident power. Doors open. Others notice. Greatness can not be obtained; it is already within us. We simply must strip away resistance and stand in the power of our presence.
The process of moving from station to station and breaking through one level of reality into another, and thereby inventing a higher version of yourself, rarely, if ever, happens overnight. Transformation requires time, and therefore requires persistence. There will be obstacles. “You are not allowed to do that,” your boss says. “That’s not who you are,” your friends say. When the world around us conflicts with our dreams, we tend to begin doubting ourselves and resist the reality that confronts us. Resistance is pressing the brakes. Resistance is believing that the conventions of the world must be right and our vision must be wrong. Resistance is when fear creeps like a black spider into your daydreams; it lingers, then you forget. At the moment of resistance we have two choices. We can either sink back into our same old patterns, and die another small death, or we can proceed with courage and greet our obstacles in a state of poised flow. Resistance is natural; so is perseverance. Dreams remain dreams to the degree that we take our resistance seriously. Keep up. Those standing at the end of the race, the heroes of their story, are those who learn to transform their resistance into persistence.